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psychologically put you down, treat you like trash, take a few, move in with
you, when people ask he ll say, who? or keep you for his long-term
girlfriend. I know, I know, you may disagree here. Its ok, I love you
anyway.
The next time you listen to your married/attached girlfriends go off about
their man, listen for how they talk about their man and you ll tell whether
their man has fear and passion for them.
When you love yourself enough to demand being treated like a queen, you
don t go around being a dog who barks to get attention. You insist on it by
the way you treat yourself. If your man pouts, you re still happy. If he
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doesn t like your choice of clothes, you wear them anyway. If he tries to
push your buttons, you call him out and you don t give him makeup sex if he
has done something wrong and won t say he s sorry.
When a woman cherishes herself, she acts like a rare gem. She doesn t give
anything away for free. She makes a man work to win her heart, and she
doesn t let her entire world hang on his opinion. This kind of attitude will
create a healthy fear in a man s heart which will cause him to adore you.
This fear is the foundation on which respect is built. A man will keep
thinking, She s so different, could she slip away? or I m falling in love
with her, I don t want to lose her.
When a man respects a woman, he can feel passionate about the things that
are unique to her. She creates passion by being a unique version of herself,
not a carbon copy of a fake she-man who hijacks him into a relationship.
Her life is meaningful, she does the things that contribute to her happiness
and to the people around her, and she is a spiritually balanced woman who
adds value to the lives of others.
Your personal passion awakens his masculine energy and he ll begin to fall
in love with the things that are unique to you. You appreciate and respect
him, he feels manly when he s with you and there is also an intoxicating
sexual chemistry when you are together.
You fuel the passion by the necessary space that he needs to continue his
pursuit until he falls into heat over you and wants to be with you forever.
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You respond with a kind of resistance by being available but being elusive.
This kind of response just happens naturally if you re living from your inner
essence.
You pull him in, then hold back, then remain a mystery, then become
unavailable which makes him wonder, throwing his heart into good chaos
which helps test it to see if there is real love there for you. If he did not find
this passion for you, then he s with you for the wrong reasons.
If you re the kind who sits around making house with a man for a
millennium, being old dependable, and nagging him to death, then it s time
to make a change. Stop wasting your time dating your man and start to
make room in your life for a quality man who wants to make you his #1.
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Chapter 13
Creating Fear
Ever heard of the kind of the woman who s with a man, really cares about
him, has the ball in her court and couldn t care less about trying to hook him
in even though she wants a long-term commitment? If you re not this kind
of woman, then your man may not have any fear or passion for you.
You have to be the kind of woman who can tell your man like it is without
coming across like a female Hitler. You ll turn him on when you can speak
your mind while being charming. You must show him that you are a gutsy
woman who does not make false threats. If you say you re going to do
something, then you should follow through.
For example, if he s always running late and you ve communicated that
you ll make plans to do something else if he s not on time, then you should
do it without calling him to tell him that you re making plans because he
didn t show up. Men need to be shocked into good behavior.
If your boyfriend has never thought of you as a sassy woman, you re not
being a cool girlfriend. You re just kissing his rear end in order to make him
marry you. A cool girlfriend is a woman who can offer her man a real
challenge. And men will leave when they don t have the kind of struggle
that causes them to have renewed respect over and over again.
I am not advocating for you to be a domineering wrench, you ve got to be
the sort of woman who will have your boyfriend know that you re not stuck
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on him like superglue - this is how to create true fear which equates to
respect.
Fear Creation Tips
1. Do not be instantly available every time your boyfriend wants to go
out with you, call you, email you, or tries to get in touch with you. If
you think this is about playing a game, then you don t know how to
create value in the heart of someone else. Anything that is easily
available loses value. Don t go running to the phone like you re
going for Olympic gold. He s only a man for crying out loud!
2. Change your look every six months to a year. Upgrade your style,
wear a different perfume, get a new haircut and make sure your
accessories say I m in love with me.
3. When you get into disagreements, take the high road and don t give in
just because you don t want to rock the boat. A decent amount of
boat rocking is good for a man s soul.
4. If he keeps doing something that bugs you, don t talk about it
anymore. Follow through with a plan that will cause him to wonder if
you ve been snatched away by a harlequin man to Hawaii for a few
days. He needs to feel that way.
5. Speak once, follow through twice!
6. If he crosses the line by acting like a man who hasn t eaten for days,
let him have a couple of weeks to think it through. Meaning, don t
call him to nag him about respecting you or pick up the phone if its
him who s calling. Respect yourself first.
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7. Have a sense of humor like a real Hottie who ll cause him to not quite
know if you re always serious about serious matters. Say things in a
sly, mischievous, playful matter. For example, if he s talking about
going away with you for a few days, joke around by saying, Hmmm,
you know I was thinking of spending sometime away with Doug so I
don t know if I can go with you! He ll be thinking, Who s Doug?
8. Act as if he hasn t quite got you even if he s the most wonderful,
sincere, amazing man you ve ever met.
9. Speak your mind but be respectful of his opinions.
10.Call him out if he s trying to wiggle his way out of a situation but let
him hear it with respect.
11.Dump him if he deserves it.
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Chapter 14
Creating Passion
A man can be passionate about you when you have the ability to bring out
the man in him unlike any other woman while living a supercharged life
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